6 ways to stop a man from wanting to be physically intimate with you too soon! “He’s too bold,” Christine’s mouth twitched in disgust. “Picture only, I just met him and he wants to retouch me. What does he think I am, a bum?” Her indignation was beginning to turn into a mixture of anger and shame. Another girl told me how despicable this guy was because all she seemed to want to do was have sex and they just met. She crossed it out immediately. Should you reject a man because he makes sexual advances on you before he knows you properly? Well, this is what Christine (and most women) did. Do you agree? Well, on the surface of things, you’re probably right.
However, let’s dig a little deeper. After much study, I am slowly coming to the conclusion that many women are missing out on having a great relationship and a good man because of something that can be fixed. First let me tell you that most men somehow have a remote idea of what it would be like to have sex with you. Most men, thank God, manage this thought and feeling. They don’t let you know that, because they realize that you can be offended as my client. By the way, if you feel attracted to the man, you will think the same, but you will not show it because you do not want to seem like a common prostitute. FACT: Most men are psychosexually wired for sex. This has nothing to do with him being nasty, earthy, etc. It’s simply when your seminal vesicles (the part of your testicles that stores sperm) are full; he feels a strong biological need to have sex. This may be when he goes “prowling”. It’s similar to the urges you have around your menstrual cycle.
That said, most men make a smart effort to control it. Another reason some men try to push you is to test you. He wants to find out how easy it is to mark you. Of course, if you give in, he will have a great time, but your grades in his eyes will drop significantly. Of course, if you give in, he will have a great time, but your grades in his eyes will drop significantly. What can you do? How to handle this?
1. First you must be clear about your limits and principles.
has. When do you feel safe to start physical contact? No, I’m not talking about sex. Holding hands, kisses, caresses on the neck
b. Determine if you want a goodnight kiss and what type of kiss you will allow, for example, a kiss on the cheek, a light kiss on the mouth, etc.
2. Also be clear about how many dates or how well you want to get to know a guy before having sex, eg 2,3,4 months or dates. My strong suggestion is to never have sex on first dates.
3. If a man starts touching you in uncomfortable places, don’t get mad, just take his hand and gently but firmly move it back on his leg, explain calmly that you don’t feel comfortable doing that right now.
4. Tell the story of one of your friends who recently gave in to a guy, got pregnant, and the guy didn’t want to know. Explain to her how cheap and worthless she feels right now. Emphasize that it’s never a great idea for a woman anyway, as it may just be a test.
5. Make sure to be cheerful about it. Telling him through his attitude that it’s okay to have fun and even do things with him, but that he’s not ready to go that route (smooching, cuddling, and sex) right now.
6. If it continues, get up and immediately end the appointment or meeting. Here’s the attitude to adopt when men try to flirt with you. “Sex is great, but I’m not comfortable doing it unless I’m in a secure relationship.”
