The Bad Side of Pickup Training – Tips to Avoid the Bad

I’ve seen a lot of gurus ruin men’s lives with bad training and I got sick of it. I was lucky to have a wingman who took me away from all the hypnotic publicity so he could get out without brainwashing me. For this reason I am writing articles to educate kids about these things.

How many times have you heard an instructor or advanced artist guru say, “You can’t get good until you open 1000 games”? It no longer takes 1000 sessions or sets of talking to women to get better and get rid of approach anxiety. Today good gurus can do it in one night with a hypnotherapy session or NLP session. Anyone who still adheres to the “1000 outfits” mentality also wants to sell you a lot of bootcamps or products. It’s a lot like weight loss companies telling you that losing 1-2 pounds a week is safe when doctors have gotten their patients to lose a pound a day safely.

How many gurus have you seen advertised based on the number of women they’ve slept with? Yes, that can be a good indicator of how good they are. But a lot of times it’s just an indicator of how many of the same type of women they’ve slept with over and over again. I don’t know about you, but sleeping with 100 Bar girls in a year would get pretty tedious and old if that’s all I knew how to learn. But it does make good photos and publicity to sell bootcamps.

THERE MUST BE ETHICS IN THE COLLECTION. My ground rules are simple, just like doctors learning “At first do no harm” from Hippocrates. My rules: Love the women you choose. Avoid and learn ways to remove negative people from your life, including women and lovers. Leave them better than you found them if you have to. Always go for win-win, or win-win-win, or win-win-win-win. If you learn from this framework, you learn from an angle that avoids stagnation and avoids an overinflated ego.

Many PUAs have had their karma kicked in the butt for using the game for the wrong reasons, and many times they ask the gurus to right the ship. Not many of them know how they are clearing their own boats of the destructive paths they have navigated when they go to pick them up to validate themselves by having many notches in their bedposts.

However, some gurus are right. They are looking for quality women. Women who are attracted to them from the inside out. Gurus who get it right don’t need to be validated by a woman or just say, “I only date models and 10’s.” It sounds cliché because it is a tactic, but for many gurus it is the truth. They are looking for women with positive energy, a positive outlook, and a great personality. And sometimes women who are 10 internally and in their hearts are 8 when rated on looks. I much prefer to have sex with this woman than with a 10 who is an ax murderer or a psychopath. (And many PUAs learn that lesson too late!).

The numbers are not important. I don’t value one pick over another just because they have more bedpost indentations, because they show a video of them with 100 women, or because they have a Facebook page full of victims of their techniques instead of actual partners. My most successful students find their wife during or immediately after our boot camp and move on to marriage or long-term relationships when they find her worthy. That is your choice. I’ve been in multiple long-term mutually beneficial relationships, so I’m not trying to force any specific monogamous lifestyle. But wouldn’t it be better if you had several women in your life who were okay with that and also very positive and supportive of them, just like you are with them and their choices?

And this is my biggest pet peeve of all. EVERY philosophy and style of pickup has value. However, I see NO VALUE in those programs or websites or gurus who teach other people’s lessons as their own to make money. This is intellectual property theft! I refuse to repeat other people’s things as my own just to make money. There’s no need to reinvent the wheel and put my name stamped on the sidewall. An honest and ethical guru will refer you to those products where he believes in the value of the product as original and valuable/worth your money, and even invite them to speak to you directly on their own account.

There are many different types of gurus out there. Marine-like drill sergeants. Loving drum beaters, master openers, NLP gurus, mystery magicians, amogs, poachers and snake oil salesmen. Then there are the down to earth guys who just know what they’re doing. Whichever guru you choose, make sure that you are the one who is satisfied and that they fit with your goals. And take advantage of money-back guarantees if you’re not satisfied. Just read the fine print of your contract with the service.

If I had to describe the perfect PUA teacher, it would be a Socratic educator. This teacher, like Socrates, would never give a straight answer. He would want you to find the answers yourself so they no longer have to teach you. Through his instruction, you learn how to learn the game and the direction of life correctly: on your own with good critical filters, without hurting a person in the process. It is the best way to become a complete, calibrated, congruent social artist… with your own style and knowledge, through the guidance of someone who can teach.

Good luck on your trip. Build positivity in your life. And watch the women come to you.

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