According to most romantic movies, the beginning of every exciting relationship begins with a kiss. There is a move that surpasses it in effectiveness and also does not leave you exposed and vulnerable to being rejected. But let’s back up for a second: the more common wisdom these days about attracting women makes it seem like if you make a woman comfortable with her touch, then you can start a physical relationship.
This is sound reasoning and follows logic, but what this little tidbit leaves out is the fact that love and emotions are not a logical construct. I offer you a very different line of reasoning as to why a kiss can be the beginning of a relationship between a man and a woman. There are two aspects to a kiss that make it very viable for furthering a relationship, and it is only because of these two aspects that a traditional kiss is effective.
1. Kissing is an overt physical movement, it shows your physical attraction to a woman. Trying to kiss her makes it unlikely that a woman would have any questions about why you like her. You can flirt with a girl all night, but that can be harmless and fun. Kissing is an overt movement. He can no longer deny that he didn’t know what was going on.
2. Kissing is a physical move that allows her to reciprocate if she shares your attraction to her. Now you are no longer trying to seduce or get her. You are no longer on separate teams, you end up on the same team.
The process of two people coming together on the same team with mutual attraction is called It’s On Moment. When you think about it, this is exactly why most of the “traditional” methods of trying to attract a woman don’t work. Asking a woman for her phone number is not an opportune moment because getting her number is not physical. On the other hand, simply touching a woman and making her comfortable with your touch doesn’t create an opportune moment because she’s not touching you back, it’s not mutual.
I’m sure every time you go to the club you see a bunch of men making fun of women on the dance floor, only to see these same women walk away moments later without even saying goodbye. Why did he leave? Because as much as they touched each other or as aggressive as these guys thought they were, it wasn’t creating a mutual physical moment with her. There was no connection and, more importantly, no overt physical movement to show her attraction to her. Therefore, chances are she doesn’t even remember that she danced with him at the end of the night. So here’s the moment you’ve been waiting for, what move is MORE powerful than kissing and so covert that she could never reject you for it?
caresses of mutual hands
The mutual caress of the hands is so powerful because it creates a feeling of the type “we are a new couple” inside her. Endorphins? Check. Dopamines? Check. They are now officially on the same team. They are working together. This is what a new couple naturally does with each other; play with the hands of others, etc. This magical moment also makes it more likely that she will continue to comply with future physical escalations and requests; the comfort created during mutual touching triggers her feelings of safety while she is physically with you. So how do you use this to create an It’s On Moment?
Too easy…
1. Take her hand
2. Hold it for a few seconds
3. Begin by stroking her hand gently until she strokes you back.
The key is that you want to quickly move from holding hands to caressing. The reason you don’t hold his hand for long is because women associate “holding” with men being needy. Instead, leave your hand slightly open and give him a chance to brush away or stroke your hand. Keep in mind that holding hands will not create the same powerful feeling as touching each other.
This is THE easiest AND most consistent way to get to the It’s On moment. That’s because the easiest part of your body for her to feel comfortable touching is your hands. Think about it. A woman is not going to randomly start caressing your legs. Most guys spend all their time worrying about touching her. Instead, make it easier for HER TO TOUCH YOU.
By holding his hand first, we are only speeding up the process of coming to a moment of mutual caress. Don’t be the average guy who leaves this moment to chance. Remember that it is up to YOU to make this moment happen.
What if she doesn’t take my hand or push hers away?
Unlike going in for a kiss and getting rejected, if she doesn’t take your hand, you can just ignore it and try again later. You see, her rejection of your advances in terms of holding hands can never come true unless you acknowledge that you made an effort to escalate to her and failed. Compared to an all or nothing move like kissing her, there is simply NO comparison to stroking each other’s hands, because these are the ONLY possible outcomes!
1. She pulls her hand away, you know she has a little work to do before she tries again, but make no mistake, this will always work as an adequate indicator of her level of interest in you.
2. If she doesn’t pull her hand away, but she’s still not petting you, you’re in a good place! She teeters closer and closer to the edge of being FULLY ON between the two of you.
3. There are mutual caresses. Congratulations, you are OFFICIALLY ON!
Here are some more food for thought about the advantages of stroking hands versus going for the kiss:
* You have infinitely more possibilities to easily caress the hand than to give a kiss.
* You don’t have to create a perfect moment to try it
* Mutual hand strokes are easier to do with other people around
* You don’t have to leave her alone first
* If you get stamina, it requires absolutely no damage control – it’s a true test of where you two stand
* Does not reduce tension and keeps you in an aura of defiance
A woman’s hands NEVER lie.
Women with little interest will go so far as to let you TRY to kiss them. Of course, she will turn away from her and give you the ceremonial cheek. She even she can pretend to be shy so as not to hurt your feelings. But one thing that women with little interest will NEVER do is caress each other’s hands. You will notice that she will not caress your hands when you caress hers. She has no problem laughing, smiling, and keeping eye contact with you. That’s because all these things are easy to fake. Mutual hand caresses is the only thing that is not. She will repel her.
Stroking hands is something that only people who really like each other (ie new couples) do. And if she doesn’t like you, the lack of a hand to return the caress will be a dead giveaway that you’re with a woman who isn’t very attracted to you. That’s why you always go for her hands first. Because I have a secret for you. Given enough time and repetition of the tactic above, while she’s still around… It’s On timing IS INEVITABLE!
Once you have created an It’s On Moment by following the above, THE WHOLE FIELD is open to you and all the doors to taking the interaction to the NEXT level will have been unlocked.
